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Having a crush is a beautiful feeling. Each time you see them, you feel butterflies in your stomach and get all giddy and sweaty in their presence. You may also wonder how to talk to your crush without being awkward when you can’t even look them in the eyes.
Many people go clueless when talking to their crush, especially when it’s their first time. Either they back off entirely and get friend-zoned or go all out confessing their feelings, eventually scaring them away. However, if you keep certain tips in mind, you can engage your crush in exciting conversations and get them to go out with you. Scroll down as we guide you on ways to talk to your crush and help you win them over.
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How To Talk To Your Crush Without Being Awkward
An awkward conversation may drop all your chances of being with your crush. Keep a note of these tips so you impress your crush, communicate well with them, and get along together.
1. Know their interests
Before talking to your crush, try to know their interests, passion, likings, and other details so that you know what to talk to them about so that they can relate to you and engage in a conversation. You may get a rough idea about them from their friends and social media accounts. If they love reading or playing basketball, speak and interact with them and ask them questions about their favorite author or basketball player. However, avoid acting like you know more about them, which may put you in an awkward situation.
Quick tip
Avoid asking questions about their social media feed if you are not friends online. Your mention of their posts can make them uncomfortable, as they will know you have stalked them online. It will also make you look desperate.
2. Ask interesting questions
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If you are not a great conversationalist, you can engage your crush in exciting chats or conversations by asking the right questions. Keep interesting questions ready before talking to them to make them open up about themselves. Asking more questions will help you share and uncover interesting details and avoid dull moments while trying to make small talk; it also allows you to get close to them in no time. It will also lead to great conversations and help you work out a good connection.
Do remember
Asking too many questions will make them feel like they are being interrogated. Instead, stick to a few interesting things and let the conversation flow naturally.
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3. Compliment them
Giving yourcrush compliments can work wonders. However, be honest when complimenting and avoid obvious ones. Genuine compliments and praise will appeal to them, make them feel special, and leave them thinking about you and your compliments even after the date. You may start to make conversations by appreciating their taste in books, music, and style.
4. Keep it casual to make them comfortable
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It is normal to feel overwhelmed when you talk to your crush, and you may want to confess your feelings early out of excitement. However, take your time and know them well before making any move. If your crush is a colleague or a classmate, the whole event may turn awkward and embarrassing. So, take it slow and ask them out only when they are comfortable with you, and open up to them about your feelings only when you know they are into you.
Getting to finally talk to your crush is a feeling nobody forgets. An anonymous blogger recalls his college days and how ecstatic he felt when his crush finally noticed and talked to him. He was lucky that there was no awkwardness. He shares, “I never got an opportunity to talk to her till first internals. As I was one of the toppers in the language class, she finally spoke to me in the name of asking for academic help. That day, I was flying, as she had never spoken to any other boys in the class, and she started interacting with me (i).”
5. Be a good listener
Listening plays a huge role in forming a good connection. So, instead of blabbering all the time, listen to your crush. So, when you converse with them, make eye contact, smile when you talk to them, and never get distracted by your phone. When you give them your undivided attention, they will know what they mean to you and enjoy a conversation with you.
Quick tip
Nod your head occasionally to show you are listening to them. Ask questions, so they know that you are interested in what they are saying.
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6. Use your humor
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If you are blessed with a good sense of humor, use it to your advantage when talking to your crush. Making them laugh hard is the easy way to their heart. If you do not have a good sense of humor, don’t force humor that will do more harm than good. However, memorizing some jokes and telling them at the right time may work things in your favor.
7. Keep the conversation going
After making an initial impression, it is essential to keep the conversation going. But it doesn’t mean you text your crush all the time. Instead, know when to start a conversation and end it on a good note to flare up the attraction. Also, it will leave them wanting more. Always have a backup plan so that you can go to it when the conversation hits a dead-end or gets monotonous.
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8. Ask their opinion
Asking your crush for an opinion, even though you do not need it, will make them feel important. They will know that you value their insight and make your bond stronger. If everything goes well, they may also turn up to you when they need clarity on something, and you can step in and express your opinion about it.
9. Make use of social media
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If you find it hard to stay grounded around your crush and feel nervous about approaching them, it is a good idea to talk to them on social media. Get their Instagram or Facebook IDs and start texting them casually. Keep the conversations exciting by sending memes or interesting posts. You may also tag them in funny and cute posts and let them know they are in your mind. You may ask them out for a date once you break the ice and form a connection.
10. Don’t be needy
When you develop strong feelings for someone, you may want to talk to them all the time, and even a late response may frustrate you. Being needyis a sign of insecurity and low self-esteem. So, if you come across as a needy person, your crush may get turned off. Hence, don’t throw yourself at your crush. Instead, maintain your integrity, and they will come to you.
Talking to your crush is about holding your nerves and following a consistent approach. So be patient and give your crush ample time to get comfortable with you. Don’t hesitate to flirt a little, but be respectful. Following how to talk to your crush without being awkward will guide you on the right path and make them fall head over heels for you. Once you both engage in meaningful and interesting conversations and make a bond, up your game and ask them out.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. Should I say hi or hey to crush?
Hi or hey are terms generally used while initiating a conversation through texting. Using open-ended questions will be ideal as they show that you are genuinely interested in them. Using a funny meme that says hi or hello will also be a great way to start a conversation. While greeting them directly rather than using a simple hey or hi, end it with a question. For example, use “ Hey. What’s up? Or “Hi. How are you doing today?”.
2. How do you say hello in a romantic way?
There are many cute and romantic ways to greet someone. For example, sending a photo or video of yourself, smiling or waving, with a personalized heartfelt message would surely make the receiver happier. You can even use romantic memes, emojis, and gifs to convey your message.
3. Should I confess to my crush?
Deciding and debating whether or not to confess your feelings to your crush might be a nerve-wracking experience. However, confessing might not be a bad idea if you are friends or know each other well. Before confessing, make sure you are comfortable and ready to accept the outcome of your actions. There is no single right way of telling someone how you feel.
4. How to talk with your crush over text?
Texting is an effective way of communication, especially when you are not comfortable or confident to engage in a face-to-face conversation. When texting your crush, you can start with a simple “hi” or “what’s up.” You can continue the conversation by asking open-ended questions to make them talk. You may ask about their day or share funny memes to showcase your quirky and relaxed side. Also, work on your humor, as a good humor sense is liked by all. If they have achieved something, congratulate them. You may also give them genuine compliments. If your conversation goes well, you can ask more personal questions about their hobbies and interests and find some common topics to talk about. However, ensure that you do not overwhelm them with queries or frequent texts.
Infographic: Tips To Have A Smooth Conversation With A Crush
Starting a conversation with a crush can be intimidating, and if not done properly, it can be awkward for both of you. However, it may also be enjoyable and smooth with the right advice. Check out the infographic below for some quick and simple suggestions on talking to your crush without being awkward.
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Key Pointers
- Learn about your crush’s interests and likings before talking to them.
- Keep it casual and be consistent in your efforts.
- Take things slow and avoid being needy.
Feeling nervous talking to your crush? Don’t worry, this video will show you how to start a conversation and make a great impression instantly!
Personal Experience: Source
MomJunction articles include first-hand experiences to provide you with better insights through real-life narratives. Here are the sources of personal accounts referenced in this article.
i. My first crush;
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